How to Have More Meaningful Relationships

God’s process in our lives is this: first life, then change. Transformation occurs after we have been made alive together with Christ. Most often we think in terms of internal changes, such as fear turning to peace, or restlessness becoming contentment. But the Gospel also transforms our relationships.

As we grow in our knowledge of Christ and learn to abide in Him, we bear the fruit of His love for others. That is the key to more meaningful and fulfilling relationships. John and Paul explain:

  • “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John 13:34 (NIV)
  • “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”  Colossians 3:13 (NIV)
  • “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Romans 15:7 (NIV)

Healthy relationships are built on the foundation of God’s love. If you want to love others, forgive others and accept others, start with the love of God. Ask the Lord to teach you the “as I have” truths. As I have loved you, forgiven you and accepted you.

From that foundation, you can experience meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

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  • Merve Joseph

    Hey Bob, Words can not expressed the gratitude that I have for People to People Ministry..Thank you! Bob, Bob, Bob and Richard, God bless you guys..Truly life, then change..I have been working at pleasing God for over 8 years, I have been listening to the programs and teachings for the past 8 or 9 months and I am truly resting in the truth of the good news…Christ in me the hope of glory..Thank you!

    • bob christopher

      Hey Merve, that working to please God, or gain His love and acceptance will wear a person out. Glad to know that you are resting in Christ’s finished work.

  • William

    All of these things must be done by God through us. It quite literally is doing it, “as He has”, because it is Him doing it, through us. We could never even approach the love, forgiveness or acceptance that God can show. Therefore, in order to experience these things, we must truly give up on our efforts, to “rest” as the word of God puts it.

    • bob christopher

      William, well said. Abiding in Christ is the key to meaningful and healthy relationships.

  • http://sundaygotomeeting.wordpress.com Lisa

    Very good advice. It took me a while to realize the “Love your neighbor as yourself,” and “love as I have loved you,” were very different levels of standards. Of course I could never love folks as He did–especially those who did me wrong. I could give lip service, but there was no reality.

    Then God took over. :-)

    BTW, sure enjoyed the conference. Looking forward to seeing y’all again!